Why Is Online Dating So Hard For Men?
And when you see all your friends settling down, getting married, and having kids, it can make you feel a little rushed to do the same. And it doesn’t stop you from being a strong, independent woman either. It just means you have to find ways you can trigger his instinct, so you both feel fulfilled in a relationship. If you don’t know how to trigger his hero instinct, then it’s going to be hard to find a guy who will commit to you. You have to think about your profile, what pictures you put up, how you describe yourself and more.
You must overlay old emotional habits of fear and anxiety with healthier ones like excitement and assertiveness. Mentally train yourself so that any time you feel anxiety, you force yourself to do it anyway. I have entire online courses that deal with meeting and connecting with new people.
I do think that dating is generally taken more lightly by people today than at any previous time in history and it’s not good for our happiness as a culture. To make this clearer, based roughly on the data above, imagine going to a party with 100 single men and single women. In the room, one guy has 16 women talking to him, 9 other guys are talking to 36 women, and you have 50 guys standing around with 4 women showing interest in them.
Finding a good woman in the past was very easy, compared to today which has become a real challenge for many of us single men now unfortunately. Can’t just blame others that they won’t accept you. For men it is esier, you don’t have to be a Romeo to have success.
Of course, other people’s social media might not be the only problem. With everything getting posted online these days, you might be worried about having a relationship in person and dealing with everything that gets posted online. A major reason that many people avoid dating, in general, is that they have been hurt in the past or are still reeling from experiences in past relationships. The simple fact is that dating and relationships are pretty personal things, and sometimes that can leave a lasting mark and affect your relationships going forward. This can make it pretty difficult to keep dating, especially if you are still hurt by something that happened before.
Someone who refers to looking for a partner as a numbers game will sound coolly aware and pragmatic, and guide themselves to a more odds-based approach to dating. But they may also suppress any honest expression of the unbearably human loneliness or desire that makes them keep doing the math. But data sets made available by the apps can themselves be wielded in unsettling ways by people who believe the numbers are working against them.